So tough love, it isn’t always the most popular friend move. And I’d say 9 out of 10 friends should probably avoid this move. Instead knowing that reasonable acceptance is their best option. Friends aren’t for judging or critiquing or making someone feel bad about themselves (although don’t LIE to your friends, I mean be honest still…obviously). Most friendships aren’t the kind that are set up to handle tough love. But some are.
So, if you follow me on Twitter you know yesterday wasn’t a good day. Lots of reasons, sort of a building up of negative feelings, choices that aren’t bad by definition but also not GOOD, it was just a day where I wasn’t really feeling…great. Bad day. And a choice I made on this bad day…well it maybe wasn’t a good choice (this is truly yet to be determined) but a friend sort of called me out. Not in a mean way, although in my bad day mood full of feelings mood it hurt.
The problem with choices is there’s always a motive. A good one, a selfish one, a innocent one…and sometimes intentions can be muddled. Life and relationships and choices and everything can be so complicated. And then I sort of got called out. And I cried. But it was good. I mean it made me feel like crap, but what was said was right. I was being called out for my crap. And not everyone can do that and still be friends. But the friendships that can be that voice of sense when you’re doing something or thinking something stupid and sort of not who you are….well those? Those are good.
(Well this post is vague and detailed in all the wrong ways…if you’ve made it this far in to my nonsense….check out this post which is fantastic and makes some points I needed to hear. Thanks previously mentioned friend for sending it to me today! How to Get Flat Abs, Have Amazing Sex, and Rule the World in 8 Easy Steps.)